6 Types of Bullies & Victims (EXPERT)

6 Types of Bullies & Victims (EXPERT)

Bullying is not strictly a behaviour of the young and not all bullying involves fighting.Bullying, in all forms, is an attempt to steal power from someone else thus empowering the bully. There is no single reason why some people attempt to take advantage of others, but those who intimidate and manipulate often use aggressive tactics.

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Assertive Communication to Manage Conflict

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Assertive communication is the key to managing conflict. Regardless of the kind of conflict - a coworker claims your work as hers, a neighbor who parks in your parking spot, a child who refuses to do chores, a spouse who forgets to call when he/she is going to be late- all are opportunities to use assertive behavior to confront the issues and solve the conflict.

Being assertive is a respectful way to get what you want without being pushy

Learn to communicate with confidence for results and respect.

Here are five steps to approach conflict that can build strong relationships and establish boundaries.

1. Define the conflict in terms of your needs.
2. Ask questions of the other person about possible solutions
3. Choose a solution that meets both needs
4. Put together a plan of action that gives responsibilities to both parties
   
   
5. Evaluate the solutions

Don't Accuse or use "you statements"

It may be easier to say "You keep parking on my side of the parking lot. You are so inconsiderate." You statements automatically put the other person on the defensive and lessen the odds of getting to a good solution.

"I statements" put the situation in terms that do not accuse, but only state what you want to happen. "I need to have my full parking space, so I don't have to worry about scratching my car." When you communicate your needs, you are stating your position and setting your boundaries. In effect you are setting up a foundation that allows for dialog and coming to a solution that is fair for all.

Solutions Should be Fair

Conflict is not resolved if you have won and the other person has lost. If you are not sure if it was fair, ask yourself if you would have been satisfied had the other person gotten his way and you would have lost. Will that resolve the conflict?

Assertive behavior indicates that you are self-confident enough to hear and accept the truth.

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I have confidence in you.